According to Blackstate.com in an article written by Matthew Lynch these are the top 10 reasons black men don't date black women. (He surveyed 5 black men and got these answers)
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The Top Ten Reasons Why It's Hard to Date a Black Woman by Matthew Lynch
1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women's tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man's struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.
Well you have perhaps noticed, I am not a black woman :) But all I can say is I agree with you, I have a problem with anyone saying the don't date and entire race. Also I have met the kind of woman that Lynch seems to be describing in all races. I find that mass blanket opinions on entire groups of people tend not be very fair or accurate. Anyways that's just my, two sense for what it is worth.
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ReplyDeleteI was buying a new car and while the associate was away getting the paper work for me to sign there was a trainee in the room with me watching a video on proper sales technique. And I couldn't help but overhear the computer voice say this exact quote "... and be sure to cater to the woman in a black relationship. They are usually the ones who will make the final decision over there significant other. Be aware they will boss them around, manipulate them, and exert their power over them - this is to be considered normal behavior..." At that point my associate came in and we went to his office.
I just thought that was interesting. But I must say, having been with a woman of every race, I've seen those qualities in all of them. As for black women, I did notice it in them more than the rest. Just my $0.0002.
I personally don't understand why any man would deny himself the possibility of discovering his soul-mate purely based on the fact that they are a particular race, but I mean to each his own. I just know that I wouldn't do it. Deuces
ReplyDeleteThis is something that many Black men have issues with personally. Me being a Black Man with a Black Woman now, I see some of those qualities in her. And thats ok with me. Black women have been though alot, such as my girl. And even though a woman has not been in a relationship where she has had to BUILD those stereotyped qualities, she does anyway. Why? T.V. shows that depict black women in bad relationship situations, their friends have been through it, Mother has been through it, music, all of that. But who is really responsible for all that mess they go through??????? US MEN! Its our fault because we want to be the King of Da Town! So we use women, as our main tool, to make ourselves look "Cooler" or "more respected" among other men by having sex with ALL of the girls in the world (pun intended) or to have as many as we can under our arm. Men , especially Black Men, have created a monster. We never saw the repercussions of this because we were too far in the game to notice. Now women have developed this wall (like the things listed) and made it hard for the real men to pursue a relationship. So thank the Men for women who act like that. For me and my girl we have been friends for a minute so i saw alot of how dudes act so it sucks.
ReplyDeleteIf a Black woman is fortunate enough to grow up with at hardworking, God fearing, father who tells her that he loves her and that she is beautiful isn't it expected for her to look for the same thing in a mate and not be judged as being difficult for wanting that. I think some men have just forgotten how to treat women but yet they expect a woman to treat him like a king. While in church one day the pastor was preaching on relationships and said that men and women are wired differently. A woman responds to love and a man responds to respect. If you give a woman love she will give the man respect and vice versa. I doesn't matter what race woman you are dealing with if she has certain standards and morals and yes if a woman has been treated a certain way in a past relationship good or bad that effects how she is handles her next relationship. I think the same goes with men but the only difference is the men who contributed to this survey and who think this way have ruled off all Black women because of a few bad cases. And that is unfair.
ReplyDeleteFake hair, no class, bad attitudes and tacky names. Four explanations from this black man. But these are just stereotypes. These and all other stereotypes should not be decision makers for living life.
ReplyDeleteThe headline doesn't prove true to everyone. But that is what it is with all stereotypes, a handful of people go through it and become aware they are not the only ones who experienced it and thus categorize it. 1.) These men must have date women who had these characteristics in order to lead to their conclusion. 2.) They didn't go into details of what part they played so we don't have an objective point of view; ain't nobody perfect. WHat efforts did they make to meet these Black women half way to make it work. They just saw the signs and then bucked?! If that's what a relationship is all about then who is in one? 3.) I like "TheOne's" perspective on the backlash of the negative sexual abuse because MAINLY from experience, some sexual advance (within short period(1hr-3days) is what strays me away from a black man (and other races too, most prevalent in black/minorities-Now in cali, it's all races). 4.) If there was a race that was more easy to date, a lot of people compared to today would be single. 5.) Why are black women expecting their happiness from a black man? Why isn't it just a man that can make her smile? Today's time we expect equality but we ourselves are still living within the box of ignorance. If who can make you happy had a specified physical chracteristic, why haven't you found it? BECAUSE it does not exist. If black men are looking outside the box, you do the same damn thing. Not because you have to but because you deserve to
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